I want to change gears for a minute about something that has been really bothering me. I constantly struggle with: Mom guilt. Mom guilt is a REAL thing. It is something that every mom goes through at least once in their lifetime as a mom, for me this happens at least once every single day. I don’t know why, wait yes I do! Could it be because I have anxiety that stemmed from post partum? Or maybe because I am my own worst critic? Absolutely. I am harder on myself than anyone else will ever need to be. However, I know this isn’t the case for everyone. I am in a few mom groups on Facebook and noticed that even though it is supposed to be a safe place to vent or to just ask questions without getting judgmental responses, some people just can’t control themselves. I personally believe this is because some moms are so judgy and HAVE to give you their opinion or make comments just to make them feel better. This has nothing to do with you, it is all about them and THEIR character!
*To the mom who got shamed for not breastfeeding- Do what makes you happy! Happy Mom, Happy baby! Fed is best. Period.
*To the mom who chose to breastfeed- Power to you – You are able to do something miraculous.
*To the mom who chose to go back to work after the baby is born – You go girl! Make that business yours!
*To the mom who chose to stay home – Take pride every bit of what you do – you are nurturing your child for the future!
Be proud of you who are and your choices!!
For those of you that don’t know me, I was all of these and many more. I tried to breastfeed and couldn’t. I got a lot of grief from people and still do. But they don’t know my story and why should they? After all I don’t need to explain myself to anyone. I also stayed at home for a while with my kids and then went back to work. It is a struggle. BOTH are hard! BOTH are challenging. BOTH moms deserve to be appreciated and thanked for what they do! As moms, we need to set an example. We need to empower each other, help each other, and support each other! Stop knocking each other down! Let’s show our kids what we are really made of!
We are people.Yes, people. We have needs! We want what makes us happy and we don’t deserve anything less. Everyone’s definition of happy is different and thats what makes this life so great! Take some time for you and remember that you have something to offer and be the best version of you everyday. Comparing yourself and your relationships to other people’s highlight reel on social media will not empower you- it will make you feel like you are missing something when in fact you are perfectly fine the way you are! Take that nap, go to the gym, take a longer shower, eat that bag of chips, let your kid watch that TV show or play on the tablet.